Guest Post: Melany from Melany’s Guydlines Talks Fatherhood with Coach Daddy

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Melany was one of the first bloggers I found when I ventured out on my own on Coach Daddy. She has a popular blog called Melany’s Guydlines, and it covers beautifully everything from sports to women’s issues to dating. she’s a sporty girl, from a sporty family, so I wanted her to tell us a little about what it’s like to be so … sporty.

Please welcome Melany, and be sure to check out her blog.


Coach Daddy rocks! I enjoy reading about his munchkins and how fun it is raising athletic daughters. Well, my dad and mom were my coaches too! But, lets just focus on my father in this piece, shall we?

To start, I do have to toot my own horn a bit which is kind of fun. I was a great athlete growing up (Google me) playing every sport, but my main focus was softball. I played summer ball, fall ball, spring ball, and, of course, high school, and was actually the first person in 15 years to make All County for my high school.


The point of this is not to live in the past. The point is to tell you that my dad thought I was a boy until a few years ago. In fact, he still treats me that way sometimes. People would watch me hit at the batting cages and ask my dad where his “boy” played, since they could not see my long blonde hair in my helmet or my front.

We had some good times, but a lot of intense times, too.

There was a lot of yelling, a bit of crying, but some really fun memories! I never had a lack of support from him and this is still true today.

I missed out on some things during the time I played sports but the benefits of being a jock out weigh all of the dances or parties I missed during school.

Playing sports competitively gave me tools that I employ every single day to be successful in life.

Let’s list some of them:

Time management

You will never wait on me to get ready. My dates love this – I am always early. I have to wait for them and have even broken up with a guy because of it. You know, the early bird??


I can do many things at once, also known as multi-tasking. I prefer to be referred to as a “multi-tasking queen”. So, if you need me to make dinner, write a blog post, vacuum, dust and give detailed play by play of a San Francisco Giants game on TV – I am your woman.

How many women can say this?


My dad always taught me that you play how you look which meant “Tuck your shirt in” a.k.a. always look professional. I have this one down pat (especially in conjunction with the skills mom taught me from professional shopping).


You will never find me putting in 99 percent. It is 150 percent or nothing! If you aren’t willing to put in that much -then go home.


Well, this part may have hurt me a bit in the dating game but that is because I have a track record of dating losers. So, I guess it depends how you want to look at this. Don’t be a sore loser guys – not a good look.

Just admit it, I am more athletic in heels than you are. Fact.

Practice makes perfect

This could maybe translate to a work-a-holic personality but again it depends how you want to look at it. Winners win.


I don’t beat around the bush. If you don’t like what I have to say it is probably because I am right and you don’t like that.

Thick skin

I could never have succeeded working in the music business with agents throwing staplers at my head if I was weak. Just consider the source. I love the music business but the people working behind the scenes were usually the biggest assholes.

Let’s face it, there is a lot of money changing hands but at the end of the day entertainment is just that. We were not saving lives so don’t take everything personally and especially don’t ever let them see you cry! EVER!


Yep. How else could I change professions in my early 30’s and succeed without the help of anyone? It is because I believe in myself.


Of course, this had to be mentioned. My parents are not big drinkers but I do enjoy my Grey Goose and can keep up with the guys.


I am the life.

Team Player

I learned how to deal with many colorful personalities and types of people. You will need this for your entire life. Trust me and I am putting that nicely.


Most men find it very attractive that I can tell a pitch-by-pitch location for each batter. The men that don’t, should pay more attention.


I am proud of everything I do. I am extremely proud of my teams the University of Arizona Wildcats, San Francisco Giants & San Francisco 49ers.


I bet I can tell you how many perfect games have been thrown in baseball history! It is a small number! I was at the San Francisco Giants game last year when Matt Cain pitched his way into that prestigious club.

I can also tell you what year the University of Arizona won the Men’s National Championship in NCAA basketball. What do you have? Impress me and if you are not impressed, I am not impressed.


No quitters! Ever.

There is so much more to write about this topic that I could go on and on. Point is that sports are excellent for children and young adults. They instill so many traits in a person that are invaluable (and entertaining) for the rest of their lives!

Coach on Coach Daddy, but be nice to your girls. Limited yelling is best. If you need an assistant, I am here for you.


  1. nice analogies… but I have to admit… I am glad for my parties, dances, girly-girl stuff as much as I am glad I was a hard core athlete too, though unconventional as I always am… I was an ice skater, and as girly as it seems, that shit is NOT for wimps.

    1. Great points – my daughters take time to paint their nails, but then will scratch each other with them if they’re crossed! Girly girls can bring it, too.

      1. Very very true! Thankfully they don’t have extensions because that could get costly. LOL

    2. I believe it! Ice skating looks hard core to me. Thanks for the comment.

  2. laurie27wsmith says:

    When I was a cop women caused the most trouble when being arrested. 🙂

    1. … he says with a smile.

      1. laurie27wsmith says:

        Then a cringe from a swift kick to the ……..

  3. I have such fond memories of running xc and track in college. My kids aren’t there yet, but if they choose and have the opportunity to do a sport in college, I hope they will have the same experience as me. Sports teach kids lifelong lessons…but truly you could say this about any activity you become very involved in, I think. When you put energy into something of value, you are going to learn skills that will serve you well your entire life. Great read!

    1. I agree dishofdailylife that these skills could be learned whenever you are passionate about any activity. Happy you liked it!

    2. I have fond memories of sitting on the bench in every team I played on in high school! I was glad to make the team, though. I can’t wait to see what my girls can do in college. Their careers are so much brighter than mine ever was. Involvement is the key, so long as that involvement isn’t in meth production or a fight club.

      although, fight club would be physical fitness, right?

  4. I would not trade any of those experiences for the world! Not only did I learn skills for life but I made lifelong friends too. I agree dishofdailylife that these skills could be learned whenever you are passionate about any activity. Happy you liked it!

  5. MiguelNolasco says:

    That’s cool, I love a girl who can play sports. If you ever need someone to watch any sports with that’s me. I can root for any team as long it’s not against my Red Sox or L A Lakers. And I am in need of a pro football team this year. Softball is a fun sport that all can play together. Somehow I can’t believe anyone mistaking you for a boy. Hahaha I love this post, I pity any guy who won’t like you more after reading this post. What are they afraid of, that you can beat them at their best in anything? But you did forget to post that you can rock with the Best Rockers in Hollywood . Rock on \,,/ Melany !!!

    1. Thanks Miguel! Yeah, you would think a guy would like a sporty girl. You are right – I am a rocker and rock harder than most guys too. For the next post….

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