On the Road Again: This Time, at The Inklings of Life

photo credit: number657 via photopin cc
photo credit: number657 via photopin cc

There’s big stuff, and there’s little stuff.

Not just in cheeseburgers and historical fiction. A lot happens in parenting, and some of it … some of it, even dads can comprehend. There are little things, like the 9-year-old who struts onto the soccer pitch in goalkeeper gear just as she sees her sister do.

There are big things, too. Like when you type in your eighth-grader’s English paper for her at 10:30 p.m. and you recognize her writing voice.

With the big and little, are beginnings and ends. We often lament the ends. We lose things with the ends. No more bedtime stories. No more rear-facing car seats. No more piggyback rides or Garanimals pants or daddy/daughter dances.

Today, I’m at The Inklings of Life, where Morgan, my friend known as The Tatted Mom, has invited me to take part in the Friday Frenzy. I tell a little about the little and the big, from one dad’s view from behind the laptop and from the sideline.

Morgan included a story I told in her book, “Tatted Mom’s Guide to Not Screwing Up Your Kids.” Must reading for all parents. Come check out my piece on the little and big. Be sure to check out the Tatted Mom’s posts, too. You’ll love it there.

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46 Comments Add yours

  1. Beginnings and endings…so very true!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Sometimes they happen all at once.

      1. Yeah I hear ya on that.

  2. Just read it… it’s one of my favorites I’ve read of yours. ❀

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      wow … thanks Rachel. I think you can relate, right?

      1. Absolutely!!! I just wrote a post about why I think the saying it gets easier is a fat lie, but you captured the heart of why I believe that.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        Well written! This says it all. I’d encourage anyone who reads this comment to click that link and check it out.

      3. Wow thank you!! I appreciate this so much! πŸ˜‰

  3. Lyn says:

    Eli, that was just wonderful!!

  4. Aww, Eli, you made me shed a few tears here, because yes my own girls are growing right before my eyes and definitely know that so much more is to come here, too!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I thought you were crying because of the Jets game, Janine.

      1. No, I didn’t even watch it to be honest. Hanging head in shame on that!

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        Don’t do that – they lost a good lead and the game. Better not to think about the Jets right now!

      3. You do make a valid point and probably have bigger fish to fry anyways! πŸ˜‰

      4. Eli Pacheco says:

        I won’t even tell you that they negated the winning touchdown because an assistant coach called timeout before the play.

  5. Yanic A. says:

    Love the quote, just printed it for my inspiration wall. On my way to your post now! See you there. πŸ™‚

    1. Yanic A. says:

      What a beautiful post… you got me all teary this morning! *wags her finger* LOL!

      1. Eli Pacheco says:

        The guest post I have for Wednesday won’t make you cry … I don’t think. And I’ll probably keep it light for Go Ask Daddy, but no guarantees!

      2. Yanic A. says:

        It’s okay… it means they touch home and need to be read. πŸ™‚

      3. Eli Pacheco says:

        This whole parenting thing runs the gamut of emotions anyway. Luckily, it’s high on comedic value, too.

    2. Eli Pacheco says:

      I love that one. Good choice. Roots and wings … thanks so much for visiting me there too.

  6. ProteanMom says:

    Prime is just starting preschool – and Bee wants so badly to go! Even so, it’s a cute beginning to school for my boys. πŸ™‚ Great quote.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Of course Bee does – there’s probably all kinds of images of how cool things are in preschool. What are you going to do when they’re both off to school?

      I really love that quote … it’s just part of the balance we must strike as parents, isn’t it?

      1. ProteanMom says:

        When they’re both in school? Oh, I’ll be taking care of their younger siblings! πŸ™‚ We’re planning on having more kiddos.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        Keep ’em coming! (the more kids, the less chance of running out of blog material).

  7. ksbeth says:

    loved it, you are starting to find your own writing voice, just like your daughter

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      think so? i love that idea.

  8. Julia Tomiak says:

    Very thoughtful and sweet, and nice to hear from a dad, because sometimes I think moms get all the credit for being thoughtful about the subtle changes in their children. You so eloquently show us that Daddies are watching too. My husband notices as well… last week he said of our 12 year old daughter- “She’s getting curves. I don’t like it.” πŸ˜‰

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Oh, we notice too. We notice if our favorite football team changes their uniform style, but we don’t always remember anniversaries or notice when our ladies get a haircut.

      Thanks, Julia. We also notice when men our age at the county fair are eyeballing our teen daughters, and we wonder to ourselves if they’ve ever ridden in an ambulance.

  9. I LOVED this! Beginnings, endings, roots and wings.
    “Scuze me while I grab my Kleenexes….

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      This might or might not have coincided with my ‘baby’ turning 10 on Monday …

      1. *passes the rest of the Kleenex box over to Coach Daddy….

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        It’s ok – I love that she’s getting bigger. Can’t wait until she can sit up front in the car with me.

      3. Oh! I love having my kids in the front seat with me, too. I remember that being an awesome milestone πŸ™‚

      4. Eli Pacheco says:

        I also love when they could be in a forward-facing car seat. Just the look of wonder on their face. A little fear, too. And dad doesn’t even drive that crazy.

  10. Little legs, soft skin, bright eyes… Haha, you got me!

    Beginnings and endings accompany all the parents I guess. I know I have a hard time with endings, but just the other day a friend posted birthday wishes for her son who turned 13, and she told me what a cool age it is, that they have good conversations, fun and – when nobody is watching – a cuddle. So this gives me hope πŸ™‚

    And for the occasional day we miss the cute baby we once had… There’s still this one, thank you, youtube:

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Kind of made me feel old! From the time that child enters this world, the beginnings and endings are underway. I hope that you’re too busy with beginnings to worry much about ends.

      I think dads tend to focus on the beginnings more than ends – but we definitely notice both. Some of us.

      That video is awesome. I wonder if I could get my 16-year-old to laugh like that by ripping paper.

      1. My friend who is about my age went to the farmer’s market this morning, and the carrot girl asked her if she was the Mom or the Grandmom of those adorable toddlers. She was devastated. Lots of people are trying to console her on Facebook as we speak.

        It’s good to notice. Makes us appreciate what we have right now.

        Please try… have Elise sit in front of your camera aka iPhone, rip a piece of paper, and destiny will take care of the rest, hahaha! Don’t forget to post the video…

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        So going to do this.

  11. I left my comment over on Morgan’s blog mate.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Mate, that was a downright heartfelt comment. Thank you.

      1. What can I say mate, it was a heartfelt post on your behalf. It made me think of my son.

  12. I just read and commented over at Morgan’s blog. Great one!

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