American philosopher Elbert Hubbard once said “God will not look you over for medals, degrees or diplomas, but for scars.”
Today’s guest post is written by someone who has plenty.
Meet Debbie of Heartbeats ~ Soul Stains. Debbie is a regular contributor to the 6 Words series. She’s a “wife, mom, and survivor of obstacles.” One look at her About page will let you know of the adversity life has thrown at her.
She lives on the beautiful island of Oahu in Hawaii, part of a family of seven that has seen its share of dark days – but who always carries a faith stronger than anything set before them.
Debbie links up and gives things away. You can come away from her site with everything from mommy tips to recipes to inspiration to take on life with reminders of gratitude for the beauty we’re all given.
Give Debbie a warm welcome on the CD, and be sure to check out her place, too.
Throughout all my ups and downs and crazier than crazy moments I have lost a tremendous amount. I’ve lost the most precious people in my life. What I haven’t lost, is my memories. My memories are deep-rooted into my soul and although they can bring me pain, most of all they delight my heart.
My children have also lost more than any child should ever lose and what has gotten us through all the hurt and heartache is our immense joy as a family. Yes, the ones we love may have left us in tragic ways but the fabulous times we have shared and the love we have is always present.
As a family that has had to pull things together and rebuild, we cherish the lasting impressions we have and look forward to the new and spectacular twists and turns life has to offer us.
What I’ve learned through my years as a mother of 7 is the importance of keeping our memories alive and making sure they matter and last.
3 Ways to Make Sure Your Family Memories Last
1. Traditions instill family memories-
Keeping with traditions are so important. They don’t need to be over the top traditions but having things that your family will come to expect and appreciate year after year insures the memories will be carried forward.
I can’t tell you how many around the table dinner talks have been about certain family traditions. Maybe we were joking and making fun of some of them, but hey… who cares we are talking and laughing together. If you think about it, those family dinner talks can be rare in this busy world.
I notice I will keep doing some of the things my grandma always did when I was little. I cherish these memories that I use to call corny and annoying. Now I’m keeping them alive and driving my kids crazy with them. I can’t wait to go to their house one day and see them doing the same kooky things I’ve been doing all these years 🙂
2. A picture is worth a thousand words-
I know, that’s a no brainer. We know pictures are important. We have those family photos, kids school pictures and sports collages. What I value most are the spontaneous and not planned out pictures.
After my husband’s death, it was pictures that were just kind of random and not taken with the best camera that remind me of his personality the most. The accidental picture can be one that takes you back to that very moment years later, giving you an amazing remembrance of a time and place.
No words are needed; you remember the laughter, the air and the feel of that split second for the rest of your life. Never take for granted those candid bits of time caught in a simple photograph.
3. Keep it simple-
I love the times that were not thought out; the family times that just happened. Building memories that sincerely last aren’t always the planned out huge events.
Letting my hair down out of my messy mom hair bun and allowing life to happen can be some of the most unintended and beautiful memories we’ve ever had. Having days, times, events and weekends that just fell together are etched in our hearts and minds.
Some of our memories that feel the deepest are the simplest yet most genuine family times I can remember. Not over thinking things and letting them flow is a beautiful thing. Keep it simple when you can, you’ll appreciate it later.
Loving and treasuring our family and friends and the memories we hold with them are irreplaceable. When I have felt scared or lonely I have been able to lean on my family traditions and recollections; the ones created as a child and the ones I’ve built as an adult. I love them all, the good and the bad because they are made up of my life and they are mine to keep.