Guest Post: Katie of Pick Any Two, on Toddlers in Sports

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By giving up, Katie of Pick Any Two blog gained so much.

guest postKatie’s blog speaks to the concession that a mom can do anything – but not everything. Katie found something on Pinterest (I guess you can do more than recipes and Lizzie O’Leary photos on there) that became a philosophy.

Katie explains it like this:

Pick Any Two: Giving up the “have it all” mentality and instead making choices without apology or guilt. I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling better already.

Today, Katie’s here to tell why she’s signing her toddler up for sports.

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Why I’m Signing My Toddler Up for Sports

By Katie McLaughlin of Pick Any Two

“Startin’ him a little young, don’t you think?”

“Are you gunning for an athletic scholarship in a few years?”

“What, do you think he’s the next Pelé or something?”

Those are the general reactions I get when I tell people I signed my 2.5-year-old up for soccer this spring.

They think I’m either delusional—believing my son to be some kind of athletic prodigy who should be groomed for the big leagues right away—or crazy competitive, obsessed with watching my son win from the sidelines.

But I don’t think I’m either of those.

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Do I believe a toddler can grasp the rules of an organized sports game? Nope.

Do I think a preschooler has the gross motor skills to dribble a ball past a defender and intentionally score a goal? No way.

Do I want my 2.5-year-old absorbed in concepts of winning and losing? Absolutely not!

For me, it’s definitely not about competition, giving him some kind of leg up in the sports world, or even the fundamentals of the game itself.

Here’s why I’m still signing him up for a preschool sports league.

Because Being Active is Fun

We live in a society where people pay big bucks to go to special, shiny buildings and use special, shiny machines to exercise—usually grumbling about it the whole time.  Many of us adults have lost touch with what it means to have fun while staying fit.

But kids? They get it. To see a child running, tumbling, kicking, and throwing—and getting totally out of breath in the process—is to witness pure joy. For them, moving their bodies is a gift, not a punishment.

I want my son to maintain that attitude long after he’s grown, so I’m nurturing it now.

Because We’ll Bond on the Field

Toddler and preschool sports almost always require the participation of a parent or caregiver—meaning when my son’s out there kicking that ball around, my husband and I will be right there with him.

In that sense, signing him up for sports—or really any organized activity—is as much about making memories with him as it is about playing the game.

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I want to tell stories about that time he punted the ball so hard it went the whole way across the field. I want to frame a candid photo of us kicking it back and forth. I want to do this together.

Because it Eases Kids into Social Play

Toddlers and preschoolers are just starting to transition out of side-by-side play, which is when they play next to each other but still separately.

Sports are a great opportunity to practice the next natural steps: taking turns, sharing, and playing together—all skills that are important once you enter school and other more structured environments.

Because We’re Not Tied to It

I don’t think my toddler is old enough to need a lesson on quitting and the importance of “sticking with it.”

So if it turns out he hates soccer, or any other activity I sign him up for, I’m not going to force the issue. Instead, I’ll just look for alternatives that offer the same benefits—physical activity, parent-child bonding, and social interaction—but that are more suited to his current style.

In some ways, that’s what parenting is all about, don’t you think? Nurturing our kids’ growth and development in ways that honor their unique selves.

For us, that means a preschool soccer league. Now pass me the ball, would ya?

Do you think toddlers and preschoolers can benefit from playing sports?

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47 Comments Add yours

  1. Lisa says:

    Great post and wonderful,idea! Kudos to Kate!! Most kids sit in front of TV or play video games all day! Hugz Lisa and Bear

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Lisa – go check out Kate’s latest post on having a pregnant belly, and people wanting to touch it. Way excellent read!

    2. Katie @ Pick Any Two says:

      YES! I think it’s so important to encourage them not to be sedentary right from the start.

      1. Eli Pacheco says:

        Plus playing sports burns off some of that energy that makes bedtime such a challenge, doesn’t it?

  2. We did the same here with my girls and soccer by signing them up at a young age. My older daughter took to it, but our younger didn’t. So like you I just wanted them to have fun and went with their lead on this.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s up to we coaches to help keep them active and foster a love for the sport, or at least for being active.

      1. Couldn’t agree more Eli!!

  3. Lyn says:

    I think it’s great. It will strengthen his legs, it will get him into the outdoors and that is never a bad thing. Good for you Mom 🙂

    1. Katie @ Pick Any Two says:

      Thanks so much! There are so many benefits!

    2. Eli Pacheco says:

      The closer to the ground a kid is when he learns to dribble, the easier it is to pick up!

      1. Lyn says:

        LOL maybe we should start teaching them as soon as they can stand…they tend to do a lot of dribbling when they’re babies 😉

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        They even dribble while they dribble.

  4. Mommy Sanest says:

    We’ve had our daughter try soccer. Mostly, we did it as a way for her to burn off energy on the weekends as well as start to understand how to follow directions. But, now that she’s getting closer to three, I think we’re going to give dance and tumbling a shot, which I think she might have more of a incline toward (based on her tumbling antics at home).

    1. Katie @ Pick Any Two says:

      That’s the beauty of it! You can try all different types of active activities for them and see what’s the best fit.

      1. Eli Pacheco says:

        My nondescript athletic career did nothing to damage my girls’ potential, apparently!

    2. Eli Pacheco says:

      One of my girls tried skating, but for the most part, the day they strapped on shin guards, they became soccer girls for life.

  5. Kim says:

    We’re trying to get our kids involved in sports or at least a gymnastics class. No – my kids aren’t going to be world-class gymnasts or athletes. I just want to wear them out for bedtime! 😀

    1. Katie @ Pick Any Two says:

      AMEN to that!

    2. Eli Pacheco says:

      Grace fell asleep on the way home from a tournament final last time … talk about leaving it all out on the field.

  6. Absolutely brilliant. Love that parents need to be involved on the pitch as well so I look at this as a win/win for all. My two are now 19 and 21. They were both involved in sports from an early age and not only did they have fun (and fall exhausted into bed at night) I made some wonderful friends along the way. Am jealous that you are just starting out. Enjoy!

    1. Katie @ Pick Any Two says:

      Thank you so much! We’re very excited to get started!

      1. Eli Pacheco says:

        When things got tense with my older girls’ teams, it always did my heart good to watch the littles play on a Saturday morning, to remind me of where it all starts.

    2. Eli Pacheco says:

      It seems like just yesterday we had to tell Elise to stop playing with her ponytails. Now, we have to tell her not to foul the boys too hard.

  7. amycake76 says:

    I’m not much of a sports fan, but I’m signing my three year old up for s soccer team this spring too. Why? Because he’s loved balls since forever. We talk about which go in nets, which get hit, and which get kicked. His favorite outing is to the ball store. This is what he loves. I expect it to be hilarious because I imagine trying to teach three year olds to play a ball game is like herding cats, but that’ll be my enjoyment. Plus, I’m a SAHM, and he needs the social time.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      So many benefits to playing a sport at a young age – I know that when I coached the littles, the skills were only half of what I found myself teaching.

  8. ksbeth says:

    i am all for this. as long as the kids are enjoying it and the parents are able to take it for what it is. it can teach many things. )

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      i’ve learned a ton just spending time with a dozen tiny athletes, too.

  9. Dana says:

    I absolutely think toddlers and preschoolers can benefit from sports. Both of mine started with soccer, and it fostered a love for being part of a team and being active. It did not foster a love for soccer, but it gave them the confidence to try other sports as they got older. Happy soccer season, Katie! I’ll be watching lacrosse and field hockey.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s safer to put shin guards on the tykes than to give them lacrosse sticks!

  10. With a positive attitude an outlook like yours, yes, I think your child will benefit from playing soccer. It’s going to be fun for you too! A friend of mine is forcing her four year old to play soccer. The kid hates it and mostly wanders around the field and avoids the ball, but you wouldn’t know it from all the facebook photos labeling the kid ‘the next Mia Hamm’ and bragging about soccer games. I think some parents try to live vicariously through their child.

    We have our two kids in swim class. I like the discipline and of it, and watching my Wildling work at developing new skills. My husband likes it, because he gets to be in the water with our younger daughter (parents are in the class until the child is three) so it’s great bonding time for them.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      When you force your kid to play, no one wins. And I’m not even talking about the score. The kid isn’t happy, the parents can’t be satisfied,

      And the kids who play with and against them kind of lose, too. There’s a lot to this, probably too much for a comment response, but maybe enough for a post.

  11. What ever happened to saying “good for you! He’s gonna have so much fun!”

  12. Eli Pacheco says:

    It’s still a thing, Tamara, even when they’re as tall as you and are thinking about college!

  13. Wendy says:

    We would sign our toddler up for sports, but we live so far from organized sports with youth that it’s not happening.

    Instead we encourage meaningful activity and play daily with our toddler and 4 month old.

    We sprint on the beach, follow beach trails, run up and down dunes, hike in the rain forest, skip rocks in the lakes and ponds, climb wherever we can, fly kites, balance on driftwood beams, and more.

    All the while, we chat about respect for the environment, for most of our activity is done outside in natural areas.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Wow. So after a soccer tournament, I’d love to take the girls to a place like this. Probably all this nature training, when your kids go play with a soccer or baseball team later, they’ll kick everyone’s butt and end up making a Disney movie out of them. Seriously, there can be nothing better than “meaning activity and play daily … ” Those are lucky kids!

      1. Wendy says:

        Thank you.

        We love where we live. With my husband a former competitive triathlete and myself a swimmer and yoga teacher, we prioritize health and experiences.

        We also listen to our daughters and what they like, need, and want.

        For instance, the other day the two year old wanted to be with me as I photographed bald eagles. She learned to walk silently and with awareness out of respect for the birds. Then, after we shot from 10 feet away, she saw the birds fly away.

        An aside, the head coach of the local high school football team requires each boy to run 3 miles on the beach before he earns his helmet. An assistant coach waits for those who cannot complete it.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        I love so much about this comment … the experience with bald eagles, listening to your kids, the beach run.

        These are the differences between living life with an 8-crayon box or the jumbo 64 pack. *With* sharpener in the back.

  14. tamaralikecamera says:

    Not even my five-year-old has played any sports.. but now I’m tempted to sign up my 2.5-year-old. I think there are plenty of benefits all around, and I don’t think it’s too early. That’s the age my mom’s art school accepts students, actually. Do they make Picasso works of art? Of course not. But they’re learning and interacting and some of that is sticking in their memories forever.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Do they have sports in your town, Tam? Des already has soccer hair. We’re never too old for art and soccer. Lionel Messi and Pablo Picasso had to have the opportunity to create the art they do.

      And also learn a little about life. Hell, aren’t we all still learning about life?

      1. tamaralikecamera says:

        I think even 100-year-olds are still learning about life.
        We do have sports in our town, but I think he has more of what they call hockey hair. Apparently hockey players are studs.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        So Des is studly already? He has the T-shirts for the job, for sure.

  15. Nina says:

    I haven’t enrolled even my five-year-old in any sports either (like Tamara) so I guess I have no experience with whether it ‘works’ or not. I haven’t been inclined to, only because my eldest hasn’t shown interest in anything (though the last few weeks he has requested swim lessons, so that will probably be something we’ll enroll him in during the summer). The little ones will likely ask for soccer, as they are mad about the sport even when they were only a year old. Depending on the coaching style, hopefully it’ll work out!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Coaching style is key – you want a coach who will teach skills, but more than that, keep the game fun and foster a love for the sport. I hope you find it!

  16. Tessa says:

    Hey, I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award. If you’d like to check it out and accept the nomination, all the info is in this post here:

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Hey thanks, Tessa. I think I’ll answer the questions as part of my Go Ask Daddy post on Friday.

  17. Tarana Khan says:

    You make some great points, Katie! I have always encouraged my toddlers to go outdoors. Never thought of signing up for sports, but this is a good idea.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      The right program will introduce your kids to learn a new sport while fostering a love for it, Tarana!

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