The boy moms I know love the gig.
I swung and missed three times for boys. Instead, I got three girls who fix their hair and paint their nails. Right after (or before) they ruffle your hair and make you bit your nails, if you’re a boy on the soccer field, at least.
I get the best of both worlds, maybe?
Not exactly. The life of the boy mom fills both with a joy I won’t really truly know, but will always admire. Today’s guest shares her take on the journey of a boy mom with us. Rebecca Bryant blogs at Everyday Life.
On it, she writes of her “perfectly imperfect life and the chaos that is called living.” She asks us to “grab a drink, pull up a chair and let’s talk.”
Please give Rebecca a warm CD welcome, and check out Everyday Life, too.
Being a mother is hard work. It’s a 24/7 job without breaks, holidays or sick leave. That said it is the most rewarding job one could ever hope to take on. So when hubby and I finally got the positive results we were pregnant after eight long years of trying, we were thrilled. We had hoped and prayed for this day to come along and the nine months that followed were a roller coaster of every emotion in the world. I mean, after all, there was this little alien life form growing inside me.
As we awaited the arrival of our little bundle (yes I believer babies are delivered by storks or alien capsules), I was privy to much unwanted and sometimes annoying comments like.
“Let’s hope it’s a girl as they are easier to raise”
“Boys are active and disruptive”
“Hope it’s a girl as boys leave their mom”
These are just a few of the things I would hear, but in truth, I was hoping for a boy. Why? Well, because I am so not a girly girl, and having a boy is awesome. I love being a mom of a boy. Here are few things that make being a mom of a boy awesome.
1. Cooler toys
From cars that turn into robots to Legos, boys have cool toys. Spending hours building a fortress just to watch it be invaded by storm troopers is fun. Don’t get me wrong seeing a Princess being saved by her Prince Charming is nice but watching things exploded is even cooler.
2. Going out
Going out ~ getting out of the house is easier with a boy. There are no hair, makeup or outfit meltdowns to deal with. Most days if it smells clean it works. Oh and best part one pair of shoes to deal with ONE!!
3. Public restrooms
Enough said there.
No matter the topic, be it sports, girls, or food, no subject requires more then a one- to two-word response. Unlike girls, who talk things into the ground (yes that includes me). Boys are easy. The response is either yes, no or I don’t care.
5. Body noises are fun
Whether it’s farting, burping or any other body noise, it’s funny. In the store, movie theater or at home, making body noises is funny. Oh, and there’s bonus points to mom if she does it in public.
6. Food is good
One of the best parts of having a son is eating. Unlike girls who are always worry about weight, boys eat and eat a lot so enjoying food is wonderful.
Boys protect their mom. ALWAYS!!
8. Special bond
There is a special bond that happens between a mom and her son. I witnessed it growing up with six brothers, and now, as a mom of a son, I get it. There is this connection that forms that is beyond anything I’ve ever felt.
9. Mom connection
You form a connection to other moms of boys. You know what it’s like to raise them and you give support.
10. You will always be first
Yes, he will grow up. Maybe become a husband and dad. But no matter where he goes or what his does, you will always be the first lady to have held his heart.
As you can see, being a mom of a boy is the best thing ever, and no matter how many people tell me otherwise, I would never trade it for the entire splendor in the world. Do I sometime wish for sparkles and glitter? Not really, because Chewbacca looks cute with pink ribbons in his hair.
OK I am girl mom myself, but for public restrooms alone, I can say I am just slightly jealous! Seriously, thanks for sharing here today!
To a little girl whose dad must take her in a men’s restroom, there are a thousand questions to ask.
Eli, this was literally just happened recently with my husband and older daughter. You just said a mouthful here to say the least!
Just a rite of passage, Justine.
Public restrooms alone is a great plus. I never have to worry about him standing in line or sitting on something he shouldn’t
If only all of us could say that for ourselves!
This has so many parts about the way I feel about my son who was “stuck” like a thorn between two roses, with two sisters. 🙂 I liked that you featured this, and I love the newborn incubator baby, too ♡
Robin, Rebecca turned this around in record time and it was an honor to have her here – glad you liked it!
thank you that was my baby boy who decided to arrive several weeks earlier then expected. He was ready to explore the new world he would be living in. oh and as a girl with 6 brothers I feel for your son.
That was a delightful read, Rebecca. I agree, being a Mum of a boy is special. Being the Mum of girls is pretty good too — I’m both. You’re absolutely right about boys protecting their Mum. Once, when I was in hospital and had to have a very painful intravenous antibiotic my son sat and held my hand until the whole bag was empty — while I cried in pain. LOL he’s forty-two now, has given me three grandchildren and still sits on my lap and asks, “Am I still your baby boy, Mummy.” 😀
Is he, Lyn?
LOL yes, Eli, he’s still my baby boy 🙄
My son is very protective at all times.
as a girl mom and friend of boy moms and teacher of both, i get to experience the best of both worlds, and what parallel universes they are. great post –
i love the perspective you get – and are able to appreciate – as a teacher, beth.
I am a proud mom of boys and I love them.. They are weird wonderful creatures! They are every bit as dramatic as girls, can talk more than any girl, and well, have been known to cause us to have to wait in the car while they figure out their hair or clothing items….. hahahaha!!!! They are something else!!!
Now more than ever, I think boys and girls muddle those gender lines and expectations, don’t you think?
as a very proud to say it, former Tomboy- no. I don’t think it is any different now than it was back in the day. I think there is a greater freedom in some cases to muddle those lines, but I don’t think that it is any different.
Helluva point, Vicki. Helluva point.
boys are awesome and i love being a mom to one even when he is being weird.
How can you tell the difference, Rebecca?
I couldn’t wait to have an excuse to buy matchbox cars, tonka trucks, transformers, playing in the mud, etc. Don’t get me wrong, he could have preferred tea parties and staying indoors and I would have indulged him (begrudgingly, because I didn’t like that kind of thing myself), or I could have bought the same things for a girl but it balanced out for us. I got to, and still get to, play with fun toys and he has never had an issue using my pink laptop, my Hello Kitty headphones or such “girly” stuff when he needs it…even in public.
He sounds like a rock star
I love that – my girls get the best of both worlds, too, equal parts pink and camo.
I am so happy more and more places have ‘family restrooms’! Restrooms in general though, without kids it’s awful but with kids it gets a lot more complicated haha. Loved the read, thanks for sharing!
I agree with that for sure
I don’t know, I think all dads should know the struggle of taking his daughter into a men’s room at least once in his life!
O for sure, but the family restrooms are so much cleaner (most of the time), so that is why I like those so much more. Roomier too. Not every place will be able to have a family restroom so i’m sure dads and moms will have to struggle for a while.
Oh, I’m in favor – especially when you have multiple kids to juggle. You can more easily keep one from touching stuff they really shouldn’t touch!
First time I became pregnant I hoped for a girl and I got my little girl. I am a bit of a girly girl. I am 34 weeks pregnant with a boy, and while I am extremely excited, I am a bit nervous too. I grew up with a sister… what do you do with boys? Thank you for pointing out all the fun things boys bring to the table!!!!!
You’ll rock it as a boy mom, Ash.
It’s uncharted territory!
Plenty o’ blog fodder. Plenty. Can’t wait to read it.
Well-stated. God knew I could handle boys better than girls so it’s a 2:1 ratio at our house.
I wonder if Yahwey has a spreadsheet for those kind of data.
That would be interesting…
I bet God has some fast, fast Internet, too.
lol, I love this! I am a mom to both a girl and a boy and can relate to this so much! They each have their quirks and traits for sure, but I have to say, my boy who can eat an large pizza without help, is the king of one word answers! I can say with confidence that there is a big difference in raising the two genders. I got the best of both!
Looks good on a parenting resume, Tiff.
I can only say that I live vicariously as an aunt, so I can’t relate totally. It does sound like work and fun, regardless of the gender. P.s. totally not sleepwalking.
It’s an adventure and a half that never stops, 1J1.
I really wanted a daughter…I’m blessed with 2 sons and I love them dearly. Thankfully l I still got to have tea parties and watch Angelina Ballerina, for a few months…I’m a pro at grossing them out (Hubby too) and I’m not sure why I’m proud of that…
We can’t question our gifts, Jenn – we just have to cultivate them.
Boys are cool kids. I know. *smiles*
Some of us never grow out of that I suspect, mate.
The older I get the more of a boy I become. It’s tragic.