Sometimes, it’s an uphill battle. Isn’t it?
But not always. And momentum shifts. A friend implored me a while back, over alcoholic ice cream, to “cheer up!” I explained it like this: Mood can be represented by pebbles. Pebbles are easy to move and shift on the fly.
State isn’t so mobile.
Boulders represent your state. They’re tougher to move, and take prolonged effort to change. But they can change. We have to brace and push the boulders when they don’t sit in the state we want them to.
When boulders shift and roll the right direction, you must be patient.
You also must enjoy the struggle. Yes, enjoy it. Enjoy the progress, the effort, the times you slip, and the surges forward. And the character it builds or reveals when you push your shoulder against the immovable and shove it the hell up the hill.
What do you believe in?
1. I believe spirituality is a do-it-yourself project you don’t always need a house of worship to construct.
2. I believe strength, wisdom and good fortune are admirable things to pray for, but sometimes, you just have to pray for a premium cheeseburger.
3. I believe any day you can put the world on hold and just be with your kids is crazy stupid awesome.
4. I believe the best way to take care of myself is to keep writing.
5. I believe squirrels and churros should always be celebrated.
6. I believe I’ll always hope for hope.
7. I believe in those close connections that give our world at large its shape and scope.
8. I believe anger and yoga don’t mix.
9. I believe we should, at any age, allow imagination to lead the way sometimes.
10. I believe it’s a sure sign of delicious food when, in the Instagram age, we eat our food before we photograph it.
11. I believe this fatherhood thing is tougher than passing a fullback through the head of a needle, but … the rewards! Holy hell. So.worth.it.
12. I believe if ‘glitch’ is prominent in your dating vocab, you’re doing it wrong.
13. I believe it’s weird that God didn’t make veggies taste like Twinkies.
14. I believe I’m a grown-ass man with a lot of problems – but never having tasted Nutella shouldn’t be one.
15. I believe I can become of more utility to my children than any app.
16. I believe Lionel Richie’s “Hello” is the only “Hello.”
17. I believe any game controller that has a button for ‘turbo’ is too high tech for me.
18. I believe coaching soccer to be 30 percent the game, 70 percent life.
19. I believe breakfast should have dessert.
20. I believe dabbing is the tuna casserole of touchdown celebrations.
21. I believe you can learn so much about yourself by stuffing all your belongings into boxes and carrying them to a new home.
22. I believe there’s always a blues song playing in my heart. The best days are those that have a bitchin’ harmonica solo.
23. I believe decorative towels become shop towels in 2.2 seconds with kids around.
24. I believe team allegiance should rank among the most steadfast genes in the DNA strand.
25. I believe I’m a slow cooker of words – sometimes on low, sometimes on high, but always on.
26. I believe the less time you spend fussing on why and try to understand how, the better.
27. I believe we need a Boys to Men Symposium, for boys – not for the R&B group, but they’d be invited – to guide young men toward what they should be.
28. I believe acceptance, friendship, compassion … all that … they’re from the same spice rack, aren’t they? It’s all love.
29. I believe tacos upgrade anything, anywhere, any time. Seriously, try it.
30. I believe piranha biting must be awful. Naked piranha biting must reach new levels of hell.
31. I believe baseball hits closest to our souls than any other sport – it allows us to foolishly renew hope every dang-blasted spring.
32. I believe there’s a difference between childlike and childish; the first, marked by inquisitiveness; the second, by obnoxiousness. Dads, take note.
33. I believe kids are the cheese on top and the dessert in life.
34. I believe my biggest hope and dream for my girls is that when they’re grown up, I wish them to be close enough to conjure mischief together still.
35. I believe bacon and chocolate cake can motivate incredibly. Don’t get it crooked.
36. I believe working from home is hard, because you know where the cheese is and a nap on the couch feels like the right thing to do.
37. I believe you need a lot of queso to counteract the effects of whole-grain tortilla chips, but I’m motivated like that.
38. I believe there’s beauty in being a work in progress – regardless of how much work lies ahead.
39. I believe challenge is good, unless it’s a struggle to get a bag of animal crackers open.
40. I believe time you’re not productive or efficient can often be the most productive and efficient time you can spend.
41. I believe it’ll be training camp time soon, and I haven’t gloated about the Denver Broncos winning the Super Bowl nearly enough.
42. I believe Trump vs. Hillary is the worst thing for America since the Patriots vs. Seahawks Super Bowl.