Weekend Reads II: Partnership, Peace and Parenthood

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It’s not so much what I’m going to do this weekend that stirs the soul.

It’s what I’m not going to do. I won’t put in more seat time than a NASCAR champ. I won’t pry my eyelids open after another late night and early morning wondering when in the hell I’ll get to write on this blog again.

No, there will be seat time – on the couch, with the laptop, watching football, though.

I’ll throw golf discs and I’ll grill. Also, I’ll read. I want you to read too. This long holiday weekend, wherever you are, check out these posts. Each dropped a mic to some degree as I found them (has it really been three weeks?) and you’ll love them too.

Tell me something you liked about one or more of these posts in your comments.

Also: Joey writes the blog Big Teeth and Clouds. She asked about naming rights for my new (used) car. I’ll post a picture of her soon. (The car, not Joey.) And maybe you can help me name her. (Again, the car. Not Joey. Her name already rocks.)

I didn’t get into this marriage for a clean house

Clint, of No Idea What I’m Doing: A Daddy Blog

Generational differences are pretty interesting, and I’ve noticed a difference not only in how the Boomer generation accepted their grandparent status, but how they’ve carried it out. Clint’s boomer mom gives us all food for thought.

Unlike my father I didn’t really think about a clean house when I married my wife. I thought about how I liked what she had to say. I thought about how she made me feel. I thought about how she smiled a lot. I liked that. I thought about how she was sweet and thoughtful, and how she seemed like the kind of mother I’d want for my children. – Clint

The weight of what we carry | Everyday nostalgia

Corey, of Everyday Nostalgia

It’s in the simple aspects of life, parts we assume we don’t have a choice, that make a difference when you shift them. It’s easy to carry the sharp things. We think it’s our cross to bear. It isn’t. It’s often a decision you can make in an instant, to leave it behind.

I have a moment of clarity: Perhaps beauty and grace can be found even if I recognize and acknowledge that the weight of all these things—these things I’ve been choosing to carry—are far too heavy for one person to bear. I am finally able to find beauty in the graceful realization that I can only do so much. – Corey

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Keeping the whirlwind quiet

Andrea, of Stumbling Every Day

When we think we haven’t anything to say we actually have the most to say. Compelling blog reading has little to do with the details, and everything to do with the sentiment. You have a chance to think of such things as you taxi the loves of your life around!

Don’t we guard our hearts and what we really think from others, to keep and preserve that which is most easily injured? The more time that passes, the harder it is to open up again. This extends into every area of life, every relationship. It’s unhealthy to keep things bottled up. I feel this acutely, especially during this time of radio (blog) silence. – Andrea


4 of the most beloved & effective gems of Buddhist wisdom

Michelle, of Elephant Journal

Writing on mindfulness is exhausting. I still want to. I still will. But I’m realistic. Reading posts like this helps. Our inner dialogue limits our inner dialogue. It’s only by opening up to new voices (sometimes with old concepts) that we can kick it up to a higher gear.

Gratitude is the strongest and most durable foundation for our lives. Life is not about eternal happiness. It is about being real, being here, witnessing and holding space for all that arises. Reflecting, growing, modeling health and genuine humanness. It’s doing the inner work each day so that our light can shine out and benefit others. – Michelle

What is a shadow worker?

Nikki, of Nikki Watson: love, spirit, life dweller and believer of miracles

It’s incredible how difficult it is for us to see our shadow selves. We despise those traits so much that to admit they come from us seems impossible. When we realize first that forgiveness if for ourselves – and beyond that, recognize the liberation forgiving ourselves causes – self-care becomes more second nature, doesn’t it?

When we let the negative feelings within us dwell, we remain imprisoned by them. We are giving ourselves the relief and the peace we deserve when we let ourselves be free. – Nikki

When this happens, I feel so unprepared as a parent

Katherine, of Welcome to the Nursery

I recently renewed my certification for CPR (required for coaches – should be for parents!) We do all we can, and life still throws us curve balls. I’ve found that trusting in your instincts is the best way to go about a life that can surprise us at any moment.

So much of a parent’s life is filled with hum-drum dishes, teeth brushing, and cleaning up – mostly the cleaning up, right?! When something out of the ordinary happens, it can be hard to react perfectly – I get it – but I feel like parents are held to a higher standard and need to be on top of the situation immediately. – Katherine

Tempest in a teacup

C.J., of Just My Thoughts … and a Cup of Tea

Sometimes the way we choose to cope not only gets us through turmoil – it also can lift us to new heights. I consciously don’t look up much at the big picture because the immediate scene is more than enough!

Mental health in these tumultuous times is not always an easy thing to achieve. I found myself thinking a few months ago about how I got through other times like this in my life, and then I remembered. I painted and sketched my way through. It was calming and was a way of expressing a message. Sometimes only I knew the message, but it was there. – C.J.

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  1. ksbeth says:

    i’m glad you’re having a low key weekend, i’m doing the same, except for a tigers game tonight, (and we both know not much will happen there). it’s so important to make the time to just do simple things.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Stupid Tigers beat my Rockies the other night. How do you feel about the Verlander trade?

      I am taking time to do simple things (like catch up on blog comments) tonight because practice got rained out.

      1. ksbeth says:

        not happy about the jv trade, he was one of my all time fave tiger pitchers, but i know he’d like a ring and has certainly earned it –

  2. Joey says:

    Thanks for curating this list, it gave me a nice reading list for a lazy Saturday morning. That Nostalgia post blew me away. Enjoy your couch time and I’ll look forward to seeing a picture of the car, not me. I already know what I look like. And though there was a time I’d have gladly changed my name, I think I’ve finally grown into it or accepted it or put aside my general annoyance over it. Mostly.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Hope you enjoyed the list, Joey! Corey’s incredible, and I hope you’ll check more of her stuff out.

      I will get that car picture out soon. I don’t even have any pictures of you! I think Joey’s a perfect name for you personally.

  3. stomperdad says:

    Enjoy that BBQ and some seat/football time. We BBQed last night and had the neighbor over for supper to help us eat it. Love Clint’s response to his mother. When I married my wife, how well she cleaned house wasn’t one of the attributes I looked for, either.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I didn’t exactly get that barbecue/college football seat time, but I did get a little something close. Clint did have the classic retort, didn’t he Eric? #Wordtoyourmother

      A clean house is overrated. Give me family time every time.

  4. Kisma says:

    I love that your relaxing! Thanks for the referrals! I’m sitting here at the salon and these are far more entertaining reads than the trash abs gossip magazine. Nostalgia nailed it by reminding us to slow down.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I tried, at least! I take what I can get. I’m glad you got this while you were in the salon. i’m picturing you sitting under a dryer, taking them in one at a time. Corey’s awesome, isn’t she?

  5. amommasview says:

    Some new ones for me to discover!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      There’s good stuff in here! Your weekly posts helped to inspire me to these.

  6. Reading has always been a vital part of my life. From books, to magazines, to the back of the cereal box, I find myself reaching for something to read whenever I have a moment to myself. So Flaubert’s words rang a loud bell with me, and I will be reading the list you recommended. And thanks for including me, Eli! Have a great long weekend!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      How can we be good writers if we don’t read, Cath? Cereal boxes had the best stuff. I want to go back to a book when I eat, not muck up my keyboard with crumbs because I’m trying to work through lunch.

      Hope you enjoy the rest. You’re an excellent part of the list.

  7. Miriam says:

    Love the quote at the end. Read to live, hmm, if I just had more time but yes, lots of great reading here no doubt. Hope you had a great long weekend. x

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      One of my favorite quotes lately, Miriam! I wish we had an hour a day to forget all else and just enjoy words. (And snacks.)

      My long weekend meant there was more time than usual to cram things into! It was good, though, and it’s strange to feel as if I’m resting more today than the past three days!

      1. Miriam says:

        Words and snacks in an hour a day … hmm, I guess we could get up an hour earlier.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        It’d be so worth it.

  8. Andrea says:

    I am honored to be included in this line-up – thank you! I think what I liked most about these posts all is that they all had a similar theme: enjoy the things that make up life right now, something that I have a hard time doing when life is overwhelming. It’s good to be reminded to appreciate what we’ve been given.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I loved your post, Andrea. Love also your observation on the bunch. It wasn’t intentional, but I think it speaks to what i feel resonates most when it comes to reading.

      We have reminders out here, don’t we?

  9. mimi says:

    Hope the weekend worked out exactly as you had hoped.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Not even a little! But that’s okay.

  10. A great synopsis of some good reading. I shall put this in my file and keep for future reference! 😉

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Glad you liked it, Courtney. I loved the words I found here.

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