On a day with my girls at the auto fair, it kind of felt like dad was there

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photo credit: DocChewbacca Back to the past via photopin (license)

All my dad needed was a glimpse of a tail light.

He could tell you the make, model and year, just from that. Just from a red glow, a glance of it. That’s when cars had cool names, like De Soto and Falcon and GTO. Not Prius and Altima and Cruze. Those aren’t even words, let alone cars.

Dad and I picked out a 1962 Buick Skylark for my first real car.

Maddie was white with red interior. Full-bodied, four-door, hardtop sedan. Sleek lines. We installed glass-pack mufflers with dual exhaust and low-profile tires with sweet chrome rims. She shined brighter than Grace Kelly, Debbie Boone and Brooke Shields.


Saturdays are THE days when you’re a teenager with a cool car and a cool dad.

Saturdays mean waxing a car, unless it’s making a funny noise. Then we’ll have to lift the hood and get to the bottom of it. Might take a trip to AutoZone and reference an engine data book or maybe order a refurbished water pump we’ll install together.

It means cooking out and shining up and, every September, it meant a trip to the Auto Fair at Charlotte Motor Speedway for dad and me.

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Madison took this shot of a Ram tailgate. It has a built-in spoiler.

Lessons not learned

When dad died 17 years ago, I had lots of unanswered questions. They revolved around grilling and football, fatherhood and manhood. I needed to know how to lead a family and what to do when I couldn’t do anything right.

I needed to know how in the hemi to change the oil in a new car when the engine was wedged sideways under the hood.

Every late summer, when baseball wound down and thoughts in Carolina turned to barbecue and football, the billboards emerged. They’re identifiable, with a classic car in profile and that Auto Fair logo, with the late-September dates.

So many factors kept me, a dad now, from taking my kids to the show my dad took me to – not the least of which were soccer schedules and constricting lack of disposable income.

Yet here we were, Madison and me, on a Friday morning, walking the track early with relentless heat pushing through the day already. As with so many things, the fair felt smaller, less grandiose, than when my father brought me here.

I didn’t have that innate knowledge, that shared time under a car hood with my kids that my dad had with me.

I had stories as a sports writer at this track, learning race terminology and changing Dale Jarrett’s racing cap during a TV interview, at his publicist’s request. I told my girls of a racer named Dennis Setzer, a Hickory guy, who wrecked early in a race I covered here.

My race trash

I worked for the Hickory (N.C.) Daily Record then.

I watched his crew toss a quarter panel torn off in the wreck into a Rubbermaid trash can, not far from where my pickup was parked in the infield, during the Coca-cola 600 once. I lifted the race trash out of the bin and tossed in the bed of my truck.

That race junk stuck by my desk in the office at Hickory.

I also had a developing story, watching my oldest gawk at muscle cars. We walked silently through the garage area’s display of souped-up Cobras. I know nothing about souped-up Cobras, so we mainly talked about their stripes and paint jobs.

I watched Madison take pictures and also video when we entered the Jeep Mountain Course, where we’d ride along in rugged 4×4 vehicles loaded with such incredible technology for climbing and descending on off-road adventures.

I remembered the old turquoise Ford pickup my father taught me to drive in, the one with the huge stick shift that I had to drive to Greeley West High, praying to Jesus I wouldn’t strip the gears on the way.

I saw this day and the next, with Camdyn at my side, that my girls were coming into this place with a similar wonderment I did as a teenager.

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The Ram truck Madison and I rode in. She’d like one just like it for her first car. It’s like a tank and a spaceship made love and had a strong, gorgeous child.

Speedway culture

The speedway is a culture unto itself. Camdyn had no words at the sight of of men in unbuttoned Hawaiian shirts, others in neon green Crocs and matching Chevy T-shirts. I saw race gear of drivers I’d never heard of, and a hat I’m sure had been worn since ‘77.

We gravitated toward enticing food smells and the chaos of pig races.


Right there, in the track. Madison was picked as rep for one race, and her hog won. This, the same kid who got to chase chickens as a preschooler at a dinner theater in Myrtle Beach, and who met Jeff Gordon at Ricky Hendrick’s motorcycle shop in Pineville.

You won the championship on my birthday Madison told the champ, who smiled and said, Did I? That’s cool. Matter of fact, that kid. Madison, not Jeff.

That kid was a grown up now, riding with me in a Dodge Ram chock full of the same automotive wizardry that would have amazed my dad. Her phone was rolling as we took on the obstacle course, and I wondered if she realized how really cool this was.

All-terrain vehicles, beautiful as luxury cars, with engineering so sharp I could have sipped a rum and Coke (Zero) in the backseat and not spilled a precious drop.

A drive system so advanced it could climb a 30-degree hill with no driver interference, adjusting throttle and brakes to scale then descend the treacherous decline. Camdyn, too, was rolling on her smartphone when these beautiful beasts did their thing.

The engine roared

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Camdyn and me after a spin in a Jeep.

The weekend came full circle, and only Hayden missed out on a trip to the Auto Fair.

She didn’t seem to mind, but I’d love to take her next year. We left with plenty of swag, and I got to start a brute muscle car whose engine roared like a thousand lions. The noise was beautifully terrible and brought me back to days in that revved-up Buick.

I couldn’t sneak back home late at night because the entire neighborhood could hear Maddie coming a mile away.

My girls made fantastical wish lists of the Jeeps they wanted, the same way I fantasized about Pontiac Fieros and Buick Reattas and cried in a bathroom with a girl named Ashley after she blew the engine on her powder-blue ‘67 Mustang.

We marveled at muscle cars and pondered the idea of autonomous vehicles, so probable after seeing what these Jeeps could do. The girls learned how donuts get on a speedway retaining wall and a little about brothers named Waltrip and Bodine.

And the girls caught a glimpse into a space I walked with my dad as a teenager, and later where I worked as a reporter with a notebook, ear plugs and a thousand questions.

And it all makes me wish my girls could have spent a Saturday waxing and fixing and grilling and listening to super gold oldies with my dad. Today, though, I’ll settle for walking the same banked turns at an old speedway with them that I once did with him.

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  1. Beth says:

    I’m glad you were able to share the auto fair with your girls and that it brought good memories back of times spent with your dad. My kid would be all over that fair, he already knows the makes and models of pretty much every car!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Beth – so many things I do with these girls that I did with dad, mean a lot. Your son would have loved this particular part, where we got to ride in Jeeps on the obstacle course.

  2. This is so sweet. I am glad that you do this kind of thing. This is the stuff of life, love, and memories. HUGS.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Ann. We used to call them daddy-daughter dates, and we’d have them every month. We still talk about them – the awesome ones and the ones that weren’t so stellar!

  3. What a fun day! You captured it beautifully. I felt as though I was there alongside.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It was similar and different with Madison and Camdyn, Carrie. Both beautiful. Thanks for coming along for the ride.

  4. akaleistar says:

    How wonderful to share that place and memories with your girls!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s the most, Ashley. The most.

  5. Charlotte says:

    I loved reading this. I’m so sorry that your old man isn’t with you to experience these things in the flesh though I’m certain he was with you that day to walk around with your daughters now, too. ❤ bryan has this kind of car love and it’s something he shares with his dad. I went to a car show with them once and felt terribly out of place, not because they made me feel unwelcomed by any stretch, but I could see it was a beautiful bonding experience for them. Hopefully this is the start of that with your girls now, too.

    Sending all my love and have missed you. Always great to be back 🙂

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, dear. We felt dad along that day, Charlotte. I wasn’t much into cars unless I was with my dad, and it’s like that with my girls, I think. Love that you recognized that bond with Bryan and his dad. Missing your words, C.

  6. My dad used to take me to the drag races and I learned enough about cars from him to capture the interest of the boy that is now my husband. There’s something about looking at cars that feels comforting to me. Perhaps it’s a remnant of all the hot, fuel smelling days I’ve spent at race tracks and car shows with the men in my life. We tried to pass an appreciation along to our daughter. It hasn’t taken root just yet. So glad your girls enjoyed the day. I think it was kind of like they were walking with their grandpa.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      You know, Joey, my girls know an awful lot about football – and boys either love or hate that! I love that you developed a genuine interest in cars. I wonder how it’ll play out for my girls. I think the best we can do as parents is expose our kids to stuff we love and see what happens.

      I kind of feel like a bridge between my girls and my dad.

  7. ksbeth says:

    what amazing memories of times spent with your father, and for your girls who will remember special times with you as well –

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I love that Beth – and the stories I tell them about him, too.

  8. Lyn says:

    Maddison has your eyes, Eli — those same crinkly smiley eyes 🙂 Your heart must be just about full with all these treasured memories.
    When my kids were pre-teens, I had a job as a driving instructor — twelve hours every day teaching people to drive. At the weekend, what did I do to relax? LOL go for a nice long relaxing drive with my youngest.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Think so, Lyn? I’ll always have more room for more memories. You were quite … (wait for it …) driven in your job!

  9. Great post, and a nice tribute to your dad. It’s never too late to get them interested in these types of things, even if you don’t have all the answers.
    I love auto shows – so exciting for kids and adults. Love the Enzo quote, too; but then again I’m an F1 fan, so…

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Katherine. We’ve found some common interests on accident, too. We used to go to a show for new cars for my birthday every year, and the girls, even really little, seemed to like it. Enzo seemed like a good quote for the end.

      Who is your favorite F1 driver? I interviewed Juan Montoya when he was F1. I asked him then if he’d consider NASCAR. His answer? “I don’t fancy stock cars. Too boxy and slow.” Lo and behold … guess who joined NASCAR a few years later?

      1. Nice! That sounds like a fun outing. Good traditions.

        Fun interview! I never liked Montoya, though. I tend to always like underdogs – Fisichella, Heidfeld, Kubica, Hulkenberg, Button, Ricciardo …. You?

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        Thanks, Katherine. It turned out to be a blast. We have fun wherever we go, it seems.

        A kid in Camdyn’s class thought I was JPM once! Incredible.

        So many F1 drivers now are unrecognizable to me, but I’d say I could support the likes of Sergio Perez or Carlos Sainz easily.

  10. The pastor of our church told a funny story a few weeks ago about his latest car buying experience. The short version is.. he is SO NOT into cars. He sees a vehicle as a chair that gets him from point A to point B period. I like having a nice car and I am picky about what I drive. Fortunately my husband is too. I get to know my vehicles and I am aware of every nuance about them. Every sound, tick, rattle and smell. I could get into 4 different cars, same make and model, blindfolded, and I could tell you which one was mine. My first car was a 1979 Caprice Classic and I knew NOTHING about cars. I didn’t know how to maintain one or get the oil changed or anything and no one told me. My asshat step father gave me the car in the divorce agreement and assumed “someone” would tell me what to do. I don’t know who he thought that was going to be. But after I blew up the engine in it….. I never had another issue. I learned everything I needed to know from that day forward. Hard lesson but a good one! 😉

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I love that story, Courtney. Maybe you could elaborate in a guest post on Coach Daddy … what do you say?

      1. Sure! Be glad to! Hope you had a good Thanksgiving!! 🦃

  11. stomperdad says:

    While not a car enthusiast and barely a mechanic (I can change the oil and I surprised myself when I freed up a stuck alternator) I love driving. My aunt had a white with red interior ’67 Stingray. I never got to drive it, but she did give me a ride in it. I remember my dad teaching me to drive stick shift in his old Nissan pickup. Good times.

  12. San says:

    I cannot imagine being without my Dad… so kudos to you for living and thriving without yours for so long and making lasting memories with your kids that they’ll forever cherish 🙂

  13. Sure! Be glad to! Hope you had a good Thanksgiving!! 🦃

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Email me! Hope you’re also having good Thanksgiving leftovers by now.

      1. Not many leftovers. Went to a friend’s house and left with some of what we brought but that’s ok. I will shoot you an email. 😉

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