#AtoZChallenge: H is for Habit of Peace

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This peace stuff ain’t easy.

AtoZ2019HEven though sometimes it feels that way. A friend in need recently asked if I could just put the Zen on a shelf and be pissed off with her. Yes, I can. My girls’ team said, coach, you know, you can be pissed at us sometimes. We need that.

Oh, I’ve been pissed at them.

I’ve been mad at my team not for bad results, but subpar effort. I’ve been ticked at dudes who are crap puddles to female friends of mine. I’m angry about the Rockies’ rocky start and that if Kobe Bryant farts, it gets the headline over any Denver Nuggets victory.

I’ve had to make peace a habit.

Habits are born of consistency. Like my taco habit. That began when I was 12. You don’t become a taco wrangler overnight. You wind up having to keep your cool on the road and on the sideline and at home because they girls you raise know your triggers.

I try to take a picture of the starting 11 before every game. You know, for posterity. Or, in this case, sheer comedy.

Peace is hard

Peace, though. It works.

I tried it last fall season. I promised not to yell at refs through the state and conference tournaments. Not an easy task. Refs’ eyes get tired that time of year. They get grumpy. They take it out on coaches and those silly striped socks they wear.

Even when I kept cool on the sidelines, turbulence ensued.

When you’re quiet, you hear it all. The players were quiet, too, as we ran through noisy rivals to reach the championship. Our rival bellowed and complained about everything, from our dads to our tactics to the universe at large.

In the quiet we’d created, it was much easier to navigate.

In overtime and penalty kicks, we were physically exhausted. The other team emotionally spent. We’d battled them all afternoon. They fought not only us, but the refs, the dads, our tactics, their insecurities, and the universe, ultimately.

Winning is good. Winning right? Unequivocally better.

Miserable without peace

Peace isn’t an overnight thing. There’s no pill, no five-step guarantee. In fact, if it weren’t for peace, I’d be miserable. If it weren’t for meditation and mindful navigation through a series of downfalls and trials, who knows what damage I’d take on with upheaval.

Peace does not mean passiveness.

Today, we competed in a clash of titans. The bottom two teams in the conference. A 1-0 lead for us. A thunderstorm just before the half. A decision: Do we play in the second half? They didn’t want to, so we were going to go home.

Then, they changed their mind.

They wanted to take the soggy field in driving rain because they felt they could beat us. I walked back peacefully to my team. I then ripped off my tie and threw it. They want to play because they think they’ll beat you! I told the girls.

I saw fire in their eyes – but a steely calm, too.

We accepted their challenge. We trudged through the storm and put forth our best and did what we could to stem a rival from stealing one on our field. We scored, four more times. We left no doubt. In ourselves, or in who was the better side that day.

And there’s peace in a journey like that.

A to Z Challenge:

A is for Almost (and also At Last)

B is for Baggett (as in Laura, the actress, and #GirlsRock interview)

C is for Cursive, Cats, and Chinese Restaurants (Go Ask Daddy about them)

D is for Drawing the Line

E is for Every Day Gratitude

F is for Fieri, Falling in Love, and Focus (Weekend Reads IV)

G is for #GoAskDaddy: An interview with realtor Kristen Foxx

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  1. ksbeth says:

    I love this one, Eli. may peace and tacos be with you.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, beth. It felt rough getting it on the page but I’m at peace with it. Tacos make the world go ’round.

  2. susi_snaps says:

    Ah yes… working on that myself. Yoga and meditation help.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Peace comes a little at a time!

  3. Beth says:

    I’m finally starting to get to that peaceful existance…I think. It’s a daily battle, but one I like to say I’m winning, a little at a time. Hope that continues for you as well my friend!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      What has helped you most, Beth? I love to hear this! Let’s keep on keeping on.

  4. Peace, because anger and agony and angst are all awful to feel.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Agony and angst cost so much, too.

  5. Lauren Becker says:

    I love this. Trying to find peace is definitely not easy, but when you work at it, it really can make some crappy things so much better – or easier to handle.


    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Lauren. It actually makes you stronger.

  6. I have definitely found peace in many a taco. Hope you continue to find peace, friend.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Peace, love, acceptance … the list goes on, Lecy. In tacos we trust.

  7. aandj8804 says:

    I love this post! Love how you began by saying you needed more peace in your life then proceeded to encourage the girls to beat their opponent. It’s a balance, isn’t it? 🙂

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Amanda! There’s got to be something in between both extremes. I’d a definite balance, even when it’s unbalanced.

  8. In my head I kept hearing John Lennon’s voice “All we are saying is give peace a chance” Wouldn’t the world be a better place?
    Too bad people would rather be pissed off… :-/

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