10 things grateful, plus that kickass feeling ✈️ | #gratitudeandshit

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I’ve just got that feeling.

I’m not worried about jinxing it. I never have. Things aren’t perfect. Are they ever? But optimism … it’s tough to cover up. It’s like that first day of warm sun in the spring. That first deep breath of a kickass meditation.

Or how your car smells like pizza the day after you bring home takeout. #mmmm

It’s like having your good shoes on with a huge hike ahead. Deciding on a lineup change your rival hasn’t seen yet. I’m not sure it’s a 2019 thing. I don’t know when it started. I know it was good today. Shifts. Adjustments. Rules set for me.

Intentions – that feel like previews, not pipe dreams.

I’m not sure what it all means. I’m thankful for the feeling, though. Because it radiates and dominates and soon I can’t even remember what ruminations felt like. Not like this. Not like knowing I’ll be okay, no matter what. I’m thankful for that.

What are you thankful for this week?

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Camdyn, kicking ass. (That’s also Madison, the assistant coach, in Camdyn’s armpit, talking to Camdyn’s coach. The ref is extra. He probably forgot his glasses.)

1-Moments of clunkiness. I wore a Hawaiian shirt, slacks two sizes too big, and sneakers bought at Wal-mart in Augusta, Ga. (With shoelaces from Wish!) And I had a kickass day. Also, I needed a haircut. The universe didn’t really care.

2-A chance to do cool things at work. I love writing my ass off. I love trying to motivate. In a soccer match, it’s that kid who struggles to keep up that I call out to. Just a little prod, a bit of encouragement. I feel like I’m doing that with some words at work, too.

3-Daughters who steal my clothes. They’re cuter in them. I get shirts back smelling nice. And ties are wrapped up in bows. I had to start a new pile of T-shirts that aren’t fitting me at the moment, but that I know they like. They still prefer the ones that fit me.

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The girls, after a big win. (I told some I’d never lost a match before as a coach. I told others I’d never won one. Which did they believe?)

4-A spot by a salt lamp to start my day. Sure, the neighbor’s dog barks incessantly. But when the lamp goes on and the meditation starts out? He fades away. There’s just something about starting a day with this kind of energy.

5-My girls academy soccer teams. They’re so confident and sassy. They take my lineup notebook and write notes in it. They insisted on a selfie with me after a big win. They’re so fierce and quirky and remind me why I love being a girl dad so damned much.

6-Sutton and Madison looking out for me. They rally around me in ways I haven’t known much. I have their back, too. That’s why a 10 p.m. visit turned into a smorgasbord of eggs, chow mein, granola bars, and Cheerwine cake. Not all at once. Gross.

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Three enchiladas, de queso. My go-to happy place. In my face.

7-Dinner with the family. I’ve mindfully blocked off times for myself. Sunday evenings, in particular. Those nights are for me to make something for supper so good that all my girls won’t want to miss it. They’re talking homemade crunch wraps this week. Who’s in?

8-A plan. Now, to keep following the steps. It’s working. It’s like using those crazy body wrap things – and actually losing weight. I have momentum even when I fall flat. This is because I believe in my direction. In my station, no matter what. I’m where I belong.

9-Memories of needing warm underclothes on soccer game days. I love those early games when the air almost hangs frozen. It’s nature’s way of jumpstarting your soul. I can shed hoodies and windbreakers and feel badass because I also have on long johns.

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My homemade minestrone, with Italian bread and pesto. Bon Appetit.

10-Trader Joe’s (and Lidl) flour tortillas. It kills an ounce of my soul each time I buy tortillas. Great dishonor to my people. I’m convinced these stores have entrusted their tortillas to someone’s efficient and culinarily gifted abuelas. Todo tranquilo, amigo.

Todo. Tranquilo.

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  1. Conversewithu2 says:

    Thanks, I needed that!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      So glad to dish it up!

  2. Beautiful post, sweet smiling faces. 🙂

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Those faces definitely give the page a lift, don’t they, Michelle? Great to see you.

      1. Yes they sure do. They are sweeties I can tell by the smile on your face. Lots of fun! 🙂 Great to see you too! 🙂

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        I can’t wait to see how these girls progress through the game and through life.

      3. It all goes so fast. Don’t blink ☺️😊

      4. Eli Pacheco says:

        I’m afraid to blink. That leaves my ribs exposed to one of their body blows!

      5. 😀 😀 😀 that made me laugh I know what you mean girls can be tougher than boys sometimes I think 🙂

      6. Eli Pacheco says:

        For sure! They’re pretty tough.

      7. 😀 😀 😀 Happy weekend to you Eli 🙂

  3. Why did I inhale like I could smell the pizza too?! MMMM Pizza. And now I am putting enchiladas on my menu for next week because…yum! I bet you are the best coach ever and those kids are lucky to have you! Win or Lose! Have a kick ass weekend 🙂

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Because the mind is a powerful thing, Kim. I hope you’ll post pics of those enchiladas. I could seriously run a post with a half-dozen photos of the enchiladas I killed in May alone!

      I’m just a coach who enjoys the ride! It was a kickass weekend, and I hope yours was too.

  4. Akaleistar says:

    Those sound like 10 wonderful things to be thankful for!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      They were all definitely … top 10!

  5. Beth says:

    LOVE that picture of you with the soccer girls. It is so cute. And crunch wraps sound great, I’ll bring the beer. Have a good weekend my friend!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      That was the deal if we won – the selfie! Deal on the beer. Hope your weekend was great!

  6. ksbeth says:

    oh, the pizza car smell….someone should invent the scent in an air freshener –

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      This could be my big break, beth!

  7. Kathy G says:

    I’m trying to ‘source’ my ethnic food and not buy it at chain stores. Fortunately there are several nearby authentic options for buying. That’s better than nothing, right?

  8. Your soup and bread look so good! Excellent that you still have meals together, no matter what.

  9. Yep, totally can smell the leftover pizza fragrance in the car. Why is that so good, but Chinese food smells are so bad? That soup looks amazing. I am always in a soup mood, so I might have to make some minestrone soon! Congrats on the win!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s a beautiful thing, that pizza essence. You’re right, Lecy, it’s just not the same with teriyaki chicken, is it?

      Thanks on the soup. It was really delicious, although I had to sub a bit on ingredients. It’s an Olive Garden recipe.

      I tried to keep myself to a two-slice-of-Italian-bread to one-cup-of-minestrone ratio!

  10. my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/ says:

    That quote is one of my favourites. Every now and again it pops up online and I feel like the universe is sending a subtle reminder to haul out my gratitude journal and spend more time appreciating and less complaining. So thank you I know what I’m doing this evening.

    That soup looks amazing – winter here now so the perfect time for soups!

    Congratulations on your team’s win – everyone looks so happy!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      There’s a huge elemental shift when you’re grateful for what you have – yet not content to sit pat. It means that you’re good, whether you win next or lose.

      The soup was perfect, even though it’s summer here! Good soup knows no season.

      Those girls are always happy but especially after a win! They’re goofy and driven and I want to be like them when I grow up.

      1. my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/ says:

        Yes to the soup!! It is like ice-cream or frozen yoghurt for me – good ALL year round.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        You and I could talk food 24/7, 12 months, 4 seasons!

  11. I notice several of your gratitudes have to do with food.. lol! Love food also. Great list. I need to think more on the positive things in life because right now is challenging. But things usually happen for a reason, right? right?? That is what I tell myself anyway. :-/

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s no coincidence, the food connection, Courtney. Food is a beautiful thing. When it’s challenging, life, gratitude resonates even more. I’m not a believer that everything happens for a reason. Everything happens, and it’s how we react that makes all the difference.

  12. Linds says:

    All of your food pics, Eli, are making my hungry. *shakes fist* lol
    I love that your girls steal your clothes. Even though they’re not little anymore, they like Daddy’s stuff. 🙂

    Great action shot of Camdyn. And the extra ref. Lol

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      You’re welcome Linds. I remember when my shirts would swallow them hole. They’re getting bigger. Or am I getting smaller?

      Oh, refs. Gross.

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