🤸‍♂️ 10 things grateful, including stuff that isn’t about my new job #GratitudeAndShit


I’m feeling a bit repetitive lately.

I’m grateful for the chance to write again, to have the time freedom to devote energy to blogging and this universe. I’d like to take that a step further, and get back to those posts I’ve missed so much. Posting all the great #GirlsRocks interviews I’ve had lately is one.

But I miss the Go Ask Daddy posts, too.

The girls ask fewer questions these days, but we have a ton in reserve. I learn a lot doing those posts. And the mindful Monday posts I hate to call Mindful Monday posts, also. There’s a lot going on in my noggin and I love hearing what you have to say about it, too.

So I’m grateful for the chance to be here more – I need now to do something good with it.

I’ll start with some #GratitudeAndShit. Seems like a good place. Apologies if there are repeated themes here, especially with my new job and affinity for riding the bus to it. It’s where a happier path in my life has started – and I’m ready to get on down the road.

I am grateful for …

Saw this on a walk from Target to Bank of America Stadium.

1-A window seat on the bus. I just learned it’s a better spot percentage-wise to avoid germs. But that’s not the main reason. In a window seat, I can get some work done, write ahead for my blog (The #AtoZChallenge is coming up!), contemplate or snooze.

2-The show Crazy Ex Girlfriend. I mentioned this in my Currently post. Rachel Bloom is a complex person in my life right now. She’s the main character and creator of this show. It’s rich and it’s boorish and hilarious and some of the grossest humor ever.

3-Life’s discomforts to keep testing me. They’re too many to name here, some like a pebble in my shoe, others like a boulder on my foot. But feeling at a great plateau is good only for a while. Give me a climb to get there and I’ll show you momentum.

The life-size nativity scene at ACN. It’s not actually the nativity.

4-Valerie for keeping me trained. I love a blank Google doc (or detailed spreadsheet with character counts and specifics). That’s my element. Where to put everything and send everything and account for things isn’t my strong suit. Thanks, Valerie.

5-The moment someone shows kindness. I’ve come to treat kindness as a currency that only I have. That’s not to be haughty; it’s simply a better approach than expecting it anywhere. So when someone acts that way? It’s kinda cool. 

6-Having a bus pass. It’s a pain to buy passes and find out you still need to pay 80 cents because you’re on an Express bus. But I feel for those getting on who don’t know how to buy one or don’t have the money. I love that the driver often lets them ride anyway.

Christopher Walken as a general in a cafe men’s bathroom. For real.

7-Reception at Logan Family Practice. I’ve shown up late for appointments. Once, I turned up a day early. These women take good care of me, and I think they’re a little bemused that I look Hispanic but can speak only English in there. 

8-Memories of tables at Casa Grande. A $5.95 Speedy Gonzales combo with co-workers who helped keep me sane at the last job. I’m in the hustle and bustle of uptown now, but my heart (or at least my stomach) is in Concord – or at least my favorite Mexican joint.

9-My ability to face fears. It’s not an option, really, and it’s not a trait exclusive to me. But I’m grateful to have it. Some fears are internal and like a rival that you have to face every day. On the road. But to have a fighting chance? That’s all I ask.

Lunch is often beautiful.

10-Times I pick my own ass up. We all must. See No. 9. But it’s in the doing that I prove to myself that I can. It can be minor setbacks, an unkind word directed your way. It can be life-changing impediments. I’ve done it before, and I’ll do it again.

What about you? What are you grateful for this week?


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  1. beth says:

    i am all about #5, when someone shows kindness. it absolutely hits me with a tidal wave of emotion and gratitude.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Sometimes it feels like Haley’s Comet just came, Beth. But it’s spectacular nonetheless.

  2. How long is your bus ride? just curious.
    They way I see it gratitude is the key for a happy life 🙂
    Wishing you a blessed weekend! ♥♥

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It’s a little less than an hour. Today, I worked a little and took a short nap!

      You’re so right about how we see gratitude. I need to expand on this … but I feel like happiness feels often like a fitted sheet. You can get one, maybe two, if you’re lucky, three corners down, but then one comes up, so you try to get the last one down, and another comes up …

      Maybe contentment comes when you just grab a blanket and sleep on it.

      1. Happiness is when you are still happy no matter how many corners of the sheet you are able to get it down.
        I believe that happiness is a choice and not what is happening to us or around us. I make the choice to be happy no matter what. Some days that choice is easy, other days it takes some effort.
        Blanket and sleep is good, but blanket, popcorn and Netflix is even better. 🙂 ♥♥

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        If you have blanket, sleep, popcorn and Netflix, who needs the sheet? Great points my friend. And yes, happiness – or at least, the ability to find it – is a choice. Because it’s always there, we just have to see it.

  3. katy b. says:

    Good reminder about recognizing the good stuff and being grateful, and hilariously apropo comparison to fitted sheet.

    Thank you for using the word “boorish.” Definitely gonna steal and use that one soon.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Haha … thanks Katy! Boorish definitely needs more circulation, doesn’t it?

  4. Beth says:

    Great list this week my friend. I’d probably choose the window seat on the bus too, mostly because of claustrophobia and wanting to see outside, ha! Receiving kindness is just the best isn’t it? I feel like our world is so hard and cynical these days that an act of kindness is such a rare occasion that needs to be celebrated. Maybe someday it will be the norm, we can only hope right? Have a good weekend!!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Beth. The window seat is best to avoid germs, too, and who knew? I don’t think it costs much to be kind. I was driving a country road today and saw a car pull out of front of me by running a stop sign. Then they tailgated the car in front of them when there was no one else around at all. I just wondered why that person saw fit to be a d-bag to two people right then, and then wondered how long their d-bag list was for the day. Lots of good stuff in this world, but when people go out of their way to be jerks? (end rant.)

  5. Lauren Becker says:

    I think it’s great when life shows you little kindnesses – and you can give them out too. Welcome back to the world of blogging – that’s great you have more time to write these days! I’ve never watched Crazy Ex-Girlfriend but I have heard a lot about it, and I’m curious!


    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      It takes nothing to pass it on, doesn’t it? I’m trying to also be patient about my blog time, and also work ahead to find some stability here. You’ll dig Crazy Ex Girlfriend, but you’ll also murmur to yourself “what the actual hell!” In a good way.

  6. It’s hard to find immediate gratitude in those little discomforts, but looking back, you can definitely see how beneficial they are. Also, that’s a creepy portrait of Christopher Walken. Then again, he’s a pretty creepy looking guy. Haha!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I have a quote today in my journal that says when you feel those feelings of discomfort, we want to replace them with joy immediately. But maybe we should hold onto them and get what we should learn from them first.

      Oh, they had one of Bill Murray in there, too. I might have to bust that one out!

  7. Your list simply warms my heart.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      your comment warms mine!

  8. So happy to see you writing again. I sense a resolve and a shift in you like a transformation and it’s beautiful. Have a beautiful weekend my friend. 🌟✨☀️💛 All good things to you 🥳🎉

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Michelle, it feels good! It’s been a while coming, but I feel like the terrain feels differently under my feet now. Hope your weekend is beautiful, too.

  9. I love your list and your perspective. Sometimes when we shift just a little really great things happen. I’m going to have to check out that show now because it sounds perfect.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank, you, Shann! I had a couple of perspective-altering discoveries this weekend and am in awe of what has changed even from the currently. The show is strange and wonderful! you’ll love it.

  10. Court says:

    Not everyone can face their fears head on. Good on you for doing so.
    At the moment I’m grateful for text messaging and being able to snag 10 min for a quick catch up with an old friend.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      I figure, that’s my best chance, to go all in, right? Looking for momentum, too. Text catchups are the best, aren’t they?

  11. Miriam says:

    You know what Eli, it’s okay to be repetitive, especially when it’s stuff that means a lot to us. I have a Gratitude Journal and I write in it every single night before bed. I love your list of gratitudes, the small and large stuff that makes up your days. That’s what it’s all about, looking at the big picture plus all the little things along the way. Kindness, tick. Facing fears, absolutely. Me? I’ll be grateful after my dentist appointment today, one of many I have coming up but a necessary evil. Have a great week. 😌

  12. These are all really great, Eli. LOVE this: ” I’ve come to treat kindness as a currency that only I have.”
    I’ll be adopting that approach. #9 still working on that. #10 all. the. time. It doesn’t get easier but I feel less bruised each time.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you, Lisa! I get a little stingy at times with that currency, but am getting better at it. Rather, I forget I have pockets full. I think we toughen up to the bruises, don’t we?

  13. I don’t think I can come up with 10 for the week (it’s only Wednesday), but here goes…

    My dog (she’ll be 13 in a few months) was limping and I gave her a doggy massage and now she’s not limping.

    We’ve had sunshine. In Pittsburgh.

    My husband made me mini donuts the other night. That wasn’t this week and the donuts only lasted a little while, but those memories last a lifetime.

    An old blog friend decided to take the leap and follow me on Twitter. 🥳


    I hope that window seat keeps you healthy and that it remains a productive space!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Well, it’s quality, not quantity, and for that, you’ve rocked it, Joey. Sunshine and mini donuts in Pittsburgh is the biggest thing since the Pirates were actually good.

      I loved my window seat today. No fever so far. #winning

      P.S. It’s cool when someone cool follows you on Twitter. Or comments on your blog. Trust.

  14. Kathy G says:

    I miss the Go Ask Daddy posts, too! Hope you can get back to them soon.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks, Kathy. They’re making a comeback!

  15. Lindsay says:

    Nice to see you back my friend. Xo Stay safe and well….

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Same to you! Just came back from your site. We just gave the cats baths and it’s nice to not have stinky beasts about for a day or so!

  16. Nicolas says:

    Gratitude is so powerful! I heard someone (can’t remember the name) say that gratitude stands above ‘good’ or ‘bad’. We can be grateful for everything.
    Thank you for this blogpost!

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Gratitude is everything, Nicolas. It’s hard to find the bad in it, isn’t it? Thanks for visiting … looking forward to checking out your space.

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