📻 #AtoZChallenge: F is for Frank, my uncle

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Quarantine can leave you feeling calm at times, restless and helpless at others.

I’m writing this post on a Sunday, for Tuesday.

F2020I’m hoping I have very good news to share by Tuesday. My Uncle Frank is fighting for his life. He’s in the ICU in Denver, and good days and bad days are taking turns. He seems to be fighting through COVID-19, and I’m finding myself willing any strength I have to him.

I’m still hoping for the best for a man who influenced my life in incredible ways.

Uncle Frank is my buddy and hero. I was an awkward kid who could find a rare place to belong, at his side. He shared my enthusiasm for dinosaurs and Star Wars back then, and it occurred to me until this very moment that he probably felt enthusiastic because I did.

He picked me up in the wee hours of February 28, 1975, when my mom went into labor.

I woke up in his car and we watched the sun rise as we drove to my grandma’s. I remember like it was yesterday pointing out a cloud that looked just like an alligator. He could see it too! He could always see what I saw.

The coolest uncle

Uncle Frank is the coolest.

He introduced me to the coolest music, from Boz Skaggs to the Alan Parsons Project. When I was a kid, he was as cool as the Pink Panther and drove the coolest car I’d ever seen. It was way more than that, though.

I knew in him my most tangible example of unconditional love then, and for a lifetime.

I’d love to send Uncle Frank my strength. I know he has tons of his own. He’s a kindred spirit. Recently, we’d begun texting, and I promised to call him to catch up soon. I hadn’t yet. That weighs on me heavily, but it’s nothing compared to my hope.

My hope that I’ll soon get that chance to catch up with Uncle Frank, remind him how much he means to me, and make lousy excuses about being so damned busy to have made that call yet.

Do you have someone you should call? Do it, today, would you? I let the old job get in the way and then I let the new job get in the way and there were so many days in my day pajamas I could have taken a breather and give my Uncle Frank a call.

He’s my purest supporter and no way could I ever be the man I am today without him – and I can’t wait to tell him that again.


A is for Ain’t Too Proud To Beg, Adam and Avril, and Amidala

B is for Bonnie Marie Williams, voiceover superhero, a #GirlsRock interview

C is for Conversations, Camdyn and cookies (#GratitudeAndShit) 

D is for Dorsey Standish, yoga teacher and mindfulness coach, for #GirlsRock

E is for End-of-your-career awards


Banks quote uncles


  1. Pam Webb says:

    Praying for your uncle to get well and get his strength back. Family, especially cool uncles are vital to have and to hold. Don’t beat yourself up with the shoulda, woulda, coulda—life has a way of happening that is sometimes difficult to fully get a handle on. Take care. Be well. Stay strong.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you! He is so pivotal in my life and we have lots of catching up to do, he and me. Life is pretty slippery with its handles and often there aren’t even any handles, just slippery surface after slippery surface.

      Wishing you the best through this all and beyond. So great to see you here, Pam – can’t wait to visit your page too.

      1. Pam Webb says:

        Hold on tight with both hands, even when encountering the slippery!

  2. slfinnell says:

    Sending prayers up! I’m down to 1 living uncle and will definitely give him a call in the am. Great reminder for us all.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you! I hope your call makes you (and him) smile.

  3. Eli, I send prayers for your beloved Uncle…and to you, my friend. May you both weather this storm from where you are, as you hold close, your memories and dreams.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you, Carrie. Looking forward to the day.

  4. Miriam says:

    Oh Eli, sending prayers and loving and healing thoughts to your Uncle Frank. He sounds like a very special man. Hope he makes a full recovery. xx

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you, Miriam! He helped one little boy not feel so lost in this world. xo

  5. Praying he gets you hear you tell him these things yourself.

  6. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Uncle Frank, and all of your family.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you Sharon!

  7. Holding your uncle and you Eli in my heart, and sending healing thoughts. He sounds like a wonderful man – we all should have uncles like that. There is no better time than now to tell everyone how much we love them and how much they mean to us. I’ve started a project I’m calling #MailstreamMojo and am committed to mailing out bit of love all over the world. Stay safe.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you, Deborah. He’s been a wonderful influence! I try to hug those stuck in my house for this as often as possible. I love the idea of #MailstreamMojo! This world needs compassionate thinkers like you.

  8. Frank sounds like an awesome guy. I’m so sorry he’s going through this. I’ll be keeping him and your family in my prayers.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      He is a great man, Lecy. He’s fighting hard and has so much love and support. Thank you for your continued prayers!

  9. beth says:

    f is for fighting for frank and family and friends fighting on his behalf.

  10. Yvonne says:

    I hope your special uncle makes it through this terrible virus. He helped make you what you are today.

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thank you, Yvonne! He continues to influence me, even in this fight.

  11. SteampunkCow says:

    How’s your uncle? I hope he’s recovering from covid

    1. Eli Pacheco says:

      Thanks so much for asking – he’s off oxygen, and even sat up in bed yesterday! Today marks three days in ICU, and we’re so encouraged.

      1. SteampunkCow says:

        That’s wonderful news! He’s a great warrior.

      2. Eli Pacheco says:

        Thank you! He’s inspiring me for sure. I’ll be glad when it’s all done, you know?

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