Losing on Purpose: My Defining Moment in Sports

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Just outside the Fredericksburg Cemetery.

What was your defining moment in sports?

Some scored the winning touchdown. Or orchestrated a come-from-behind win in a basketball tournament. Clobbered our first home run. Maybe nailing that triple axle – finally. For me?

It was the day I gave up.


It wasn’t just a loss. It wasn’t a race I was beaten in. No one tracked me down, I wasn’t hurt, and it was completely in my hands. I just chose to toss it away. I quit. I still don’t know why.

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An Open Letter To Grace’s New Coach

photo credit: ShellyS via photopin cc
photo credit: ShellyS via photopin cc

Dear Grace’s new coach,

Hello. Receipt of this letter means you’ve made the intelligent choice of drafting Grace to play on your 7-8 soccer team this season. Congratulations. And warning. I’m watching you. No, I’m not that parent. I’m your friend.


Grace has had the benefit of a top-notch, incredible soccer experience. Yes, all three years of it. She learned technical skills and tactical knowledge and, more important, was allowed to flourish and develop her own sense of the game and all its nuances.

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